Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh." – Galatians 5:16 (KJV)
Sometimes the greatest spiritual battle we will ever fight isn't against what someone did to us. It's against what rises up inside us because of what they did: the urge to retaliate, the desire to defend ourselves, the temptation to give someone a taste of their own medicine, the need to have the last word. Sometimes the enemy doesn't need to destroy our faith. He only needs to provoke our flesh long enough for us to forget who we belong to. The enemy knows that if he can control our reaction, he can distract us from our calling.
This is something I struggle with too.....especially as I am getting older it is harder for me to let go, and I see that I need to go back to surrender. There is a kind of strength that doesn’t look like fighting back, and it’s the one we need : one that looks like a woman on her knees when everything inside her wants to stand up swinging, one that looks like choosing prayer when our flesh is begging for revenge, holding our tongue when we have every reason to speak and trusting God to handle what our hands were never meant to carry.